We all get in a bad mood every now and then, and during those times we may display behavior that is not in our best interest. However, it’s easy to go from being in a bad mood to being permanently disagreeable and being a burden to others. So stay mindful and observe your behavior to see if you’re displaying unhealthy behavior that may ultimately be bad for you and those around you.
Here are 20 unhealthy behaviors to stop doing right now.
Picking On Others For Being Too Sensitive
Do you often find that you are the one telling others to stop being so darn sensitive or to stop being so darn defensive? If you’re constantly saying either of these, it could be that you’re the one that’s actually overly sensitive or overly defensive. It’s time to check-in with yourself and see whether you could do with some self-improvement and self-care.
Manipulating Those You Interact With
If you’re always trying to control the outcome of a situation or if you find yourself doing things that ultimately result in everyone showering you with attention, then you’re likely using manipulation as your main means of relating to others. Some experts say that this type of behavior is an indicator of an emotional imbalance and it’s worth taking the time to address why you do this so that you can stop it.
Becoming Too Self-Involved
Spending a lot of time thinking about yourself, as opposed to taking time to care for others and to nurture your relationship with others, is a sign of narcissism. This is unhealthy behavior that should be improved in order for you and your loved ones to have a truly loving relationship.
Taking Things Personally
If you’re with a group of people and someone makes a negative comment that you think is directed at you – without any evidence that it actually is about you – then you’re taking things too personally. Cut yourself, and others, some slack because many times what people say and do is much more about them than it is about you.
Believing That You Are A Victim
While it’s important to acknowledge any struggles or traumas you’ve had in life, be careful not to get stuck in those memories and become a victim for life. Find ways to deal with, and make peace with, those issues so that you can get out of the victim state since it is a trap that ultimately keeps you feeling powerless and depressed.
Being Stuck In Negativity
Being perky and upbeat isn’t something anyone can do every single day of their life, but negativity and pessimism are not a healthy choice either, especially when they become your normal state of being. Not only does negativity make it difficult for you to find hope in life, but it makes it difficult for anyone to relate to you and help you in any way.
No Emotional Control
Do you regularly exhibit extreme emotions such as rage or crying no matter how small the problem? This is something you should monitor and work on improving because when you can’t control your emotions, then people around you never know what to expect. It’s also a very stressful way to lead your life and it can ultimately drive people away from you.
Being Too Needy And Dependent
Do you rely on external factors, and in particular, other people, to make you happy? Does your mood fluctuate depending on how much attention you’re getting (or not getting)? This type of neediness and dependency will always make you unhappy because no one drop their lives and be there for you 24/7. And expecting others to do everything to make you happy when you want it is a lot of pressure to put on them. Instead, learn to become more self-reliant and comfortable with your own self.
Watch your opinions about yourself and your internal dialogue. If you spend a lot of time talking down to yourself or thinking that you’re just no good, then you’re mastering a very unhealthy attitude that will not serve you in any positive way.
Every day is not perfect and some days are certainly worse than others, but if you find yourself complaining all the time, ask yourself why. Are your complaints really justifie or are you just rehearsing a negative pattern that you’ve learned? No one enjoys being around a complainer so lighten up and work toward being more optimistic about life.
Refusing To Get Help When You Need It
No matter what kind of battles you’re facing, one of the worst things you can do is to refuse to get the help that you really need. By so doing, you only compound the problem and delay the improvements and joy that you deserve in life.
Being Too Sarcastic
Injecting some sarcasm into conversation every now and then can keep things interesting, but if sarcasm is your default response to everything, then you’re perceived as angry and even, untrustworthy.
Being Passive Aggressive
Be very careful about passive aggressive comments and behavior that you throw at your loved ones. Those comments are hurtful and belittling and they can do serious damage to your relationships.
Not Celebrating Others
When something good happens to your friend, spouse or family member and your immediate reaction is not happiness, then it’s time to take a hard look at yourself and why you’re not capable of feeling joy for others. Not addressing this can spell disaster for your relationships down the road.
Pulling A Disappearing Act
Do you have a habit of just disappearing from life without warning, making it impossible for friends and family to reach you via phone or text? We all need a break from life from time to time, but if you just suddenly cut off and avoid everyone, ask yourself if it’s them you’re trying to avoid or yourself.
If you tell someone “I’m really happy for you” but your tone of voice doesn’t match the feeling you’ve expressed, it won’t be long before that person no longer wants to be around you. This is a very unhealthy way of living and you’re better off taking some time to work through the reasons why you’re not more caring or empathetic.
Making A Big Deal Of Everything
If you make a big deal out of everything and exaggerate every situation, it becomes difficult for those around you to interact with you. They end up feeling manipulated and they will eventually choose to distance themselves from you.
It’s fine to have an opinion but if that opinion leans more toward judgment, implying that you’re somehow better or that you know it all, then that’s a bad habit you need to get rid of immediately. It’s important to maintain a certain level of balance in all your interactions and even in your thoughts about about others.
Always Blaming Others
Is everything that goes wrong in your life always someone else’s fault? Or could it be that you’re always avoiding responsibility and you never face up to your role when it comes to how things turn out in your life? It’s a hard pill to swallow but oftentimes it’s all has to do with you and you need to own up to the things you are doing in life that are working against you.
Putting Things Off
If you are constantly putting off dealing with things that you need to address, it will eventually catch up with you. And when it does, it will all come crashing down on you, making it that much more difficult to deal with.